Chemistry between people exists and it is very important. I abstained from sex for a long time. I had depression after my ex left me. It's good that I found the site [Link] and began to meet girls. Thanks to the chat, I met the only one who awakened feelings of love in me. And now I feel like a happy person.

Thanks for sharing your experience. Especially about sex and body chemistry. It really is.

(whispers) I actually preordered the PS4 remake, haha. That’s the one I was worried about, actually, when I first mentioned it. I don’t even know how I’ll feel about it, honestly. I watched someone fight the 13th colossus (and one of my favorite), Phalanx, and had mixed impressions from that snippet. Wander seems to look very “generic JRPG boy” in the PS4 remake. I do look forward to revisiting a favorite and to hearing the remastered sound and music in particular.

Also, yay TLG! I hope it’s a fulfilling experience for you, whenever you play it. Also, now I want to get Dropsy, but I’m trying to set limits on how many PC games I acquire too quickly, lol.

Thank you, Laura. I’m sorry to hear about Kupo’s family members. It doesn’t make the pain of losing a loved one go away, but yeah, knowing that they lived a full life and that they won’t be in pain anymore makes it less bitter (if that makes any sense? words are hard, I’m sorry). I also never feel any more useful to people (be they coworkers or friends or family) who are grieving, even after experiencing losses myself. Thank you dearly for the love and vegan brownies!! Likewise, I’ll also send mountains of cookies to share with Kupo and lots of hugs.

It’s ok to ask for more info on how my meds and such work for me, no worries! About anorgasmia and sex drive, specifically - this might be really personal and a mite embarrassing, so apologies, eek. As someone who’s had a low and finnicky sex drive and confused relationship to my body in regards to masturbation and such, I had actually never managed to experience an orgasm prior to beginning taking my medication (which has remained at a 20mg dose of generic celexa, one of the more common SSRIs out there). After finding a really great, uh, personal massager (I may or may not have actually tossed around the idea of writing masturbation-based Hakuoki fanfic since…….jesus….) and getting a bit more comfortable with myself, I’ve since had a much better and more healthy relationship to sex. BUT!!! I say that all with the note that everyone’s body chemistry is different, that my experiences are an unscientific anecdote in the scheme of things, and that is not at all intended to diminish your feelings toward medication. In fact, I regard my experience has a very fortunate one - the first medication I tried worked well, whereas my sister has had to switch medications before finding one that worked. So I can definitely see the reason for holding back.

Being angry and having people to vent the anger to absolutely helps me. As much as I like my job, I have a coworker who is very draining to be around, and I have to be around her for about 30+ hours a week. I really do end up calling or texting someone some days just to incoherently babble and rage about it if it gets to be too much. Allowing yourself the space for anger is really important, I think.

Stories I’d like to see in the market, huh? That’s a tough one! Lady on lady love is always welcome, of course. Have you read Kissing the Witch by Emma Donoghue? That short story collection is decidedly not fully of shimmery make-out sessions, and while I had mixed feelings about it overall, I recall it having creative & nuanced depictions of women in various relationships, especially romantic ones. So if you ask me, with the way my tastes for fiction tend to skew toward fantasy, speculative fiction, magical realism, & fairytale retellings, I’d say the sky’s the limit. First person intergalactic backpacking sounds WAY more cool than anything I’d be able to come up with, though! Unless you absolutely want to avoid recalling Douglas Adams, I wouldn’t say that having that inspiration there would be a bad thing. One short story that I failed to mention before but that I read and loved in the past year or so is The Dream-Quest of Vellitt Boe, which takes a character and setting from Lovecraft (who I’ve admittedly never cared about reading) but is almost completely different in tone and scope (and reexamines the misogynist, racist writing of HPL).

Gosh, functional pockets forever on every garment should be a must. I’d love to see a picture of the blouse you made if you ever want to share it! The more you make me envious of your sewing skills, the more incentive I have to get off my butt and see if I can learn it as a skill. I made a half-curtain for my cat’s litter box corner at my last apartment (IKEA had some adorable cat-patterned fabric, so….I had to…..), and I was only able to complete that with a lot of help & guidance, haha.

Ooh, thank you for the recommendations!! Including the note about the CMBYN audio book, haha. It’s funny, because I read the book years ago - the cover and synopsis caught my eye while I was still a library page. While I found some parts of the prose, such as descriptions of the setting, very evocative, it’s also….way overrated at this point, I feel. And I have lots of thoughts about the way the movie has been produced (with no out lgbt cast members and the text of the novel having been written by a straight man), and how it’s being hailed so positively in most circles, including some lgbt ones. Funnily enough, I found a really good article that detailed why the author of it (themselves a gay writer and participant in drag communities) thinks of it as one of the straightest works of media about a gay couple in recent memory.